Relationships by Cleaning up Messes"
Last few weeks we
have been talking about how to build relationships with people so we can bring them to Jesus.
how to share Jesus without shoving Him down people’s throats
making friends with the lost without losing who you are as a Christian
providing opportunities to build a relationship by giving of ourselves
to others, by serving others
using our words to proclaim life and healing instead of death and hurting
because it is Jesus who truly gives life and when we share words of Life with others, we are sharing Jesus
“Cleaning up messes”
90 % of witnessing is cleaning up the messes other people have made.
reach people for Jesus if they have built up a wall against you/ Christians.
How do we clean up the messes we’ve made (by others or ourselves)?
1. Confront the lies with the Truth. Galatians 2:11-16
How do we do this?
Sometimes you need to confront the lies face to face
o People can only think differently about something if you lay the truth next to the lie so they can
see the difference.
o When talking to them, ask yourself, “What does the bible have to say about what they have been
through?” Show them the Truth in God’s Word as it compares to what
they have been through and experienced
o 1 Peter 3:15.
“…Always be prepared to give
an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect,”
Sometimes you just need to go straight to the Truth
You do not always have to focus specifically on their problems and try
to fix them, just give them the truth.
o Focus on the Truth and the future.
o “I’m sorry that happened to you, but let me tell you about the God I believe in.”
Always be honest with them, but not judgmental of the “other side”
o Being hateful to the other side never fixes things.
o Remember that every story has two sides to it.
§ Be careful to not pass judgment because we rarely know all the facts.
o Do not criticize others or play yourself against others
§ Your setting yourself up for the same thing down the road
§ And your making yourself look “perfect” in their eyes
· If they think you are “perfect” you will let them down later, and make another
Always match your actions with your words
As I’ve said before, words without action are dead
We need to not only tell them the Truth, we need to live it out in front
If we proclaim the truth but don’t live it, we too are making a mess
for someone somewhere else to come along and have to try and clean up.
We have to live our lives in such a way that it lines up with the Word
o “I’m sorry that happened to you, but let me show you about the God I believe in.”
(don’t actually say it)
o Examine your own life…Am I being a wrecking ball to the lost
o Do I present Jesus/myself to the lost the same way Jesus presented himself to the lost or did I “invent”
a new way to “share” Jesus
o God gave us a personality we are to use to share Jesus with but we are not to share the part of our
personality that God never intended us to use
2. Confront the lies with love
1 Peter 4:8. Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
Colossians 3:13-14. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave
you. 14And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Sometimes people just need a hug.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
just need you to be patient, kind. to not envy them, to not
be boastful, to not be proud, to not be rude, to not be self-seeking, to not be easily angered at them, to keeps no record
of wrongs they’ve done,
Sometimes people need you to
protect them, trust them, give them hope, persevere with them (be with them for the long haul).
If you argue with them to prove your point you will miss the opportunity
just to love on them.
Let the Holy Spirit show you the inside of people as to whether or not
they just need some love without all the explaining
When we do everything
in love we do not judge
When we judge we are really just attacking the hurting because we feel
our faith or fellow Christians are under attack.
o We need to expect to be under attack by the lost but we never have the right to bite back
We never attack or become defensive.
o We are not to feel personally under attack when someone rejects the Truth
§ They are not rejecting you, they are rejecting Him.
3. Confront the lies by pointing them to Jesus
Remember humans will fail you but Jesus will not.
o This does not give us the excuse to have wrecking ball personalities.
§ I’m not perfect, just forgiven is not an excuse to act improperly
Why do we point people to Jesus?
o 1 John 4:16. And so we know
and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him
§ Remember 1 Corinthians 13…love never fails
o Hebrews 13:8. Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.
o Deuteronomy 31:8. The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you;
he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."
We are supposed to look to Jesus for the perfect relationship.
Don’t present yourself or the Christian world as a perfect place
to be or be a part of because it is not.
Just present Jesus because he is perfect and He is the One who never fails!
Who is Jesus? Look at His names:
COUNSELOR ,MY DELIVERER ,EVERLASTING FATHER ,FAITHFUL AND TRUE ,FAITHFUL ,WITNESS ,MY FORTRESS
,FOUNTAIN OF LIVING WATERS ,SURE FOUNDATION ,A JUST GOD ,GOD WITH US ,GOOD MASTER ,GREAT ONE ,MY LAMP ,THE LIFE ,EVERLASTING LIGHT ,A GREAT LIGHT ,MIGHTY ,PHYSICIAN ,PRINCE OF PEACE ,REDEEMER OF ISRAEL ,MY REFUGE ,RIGHTEOUS BRANCH ,ROCK ,ROCK OF THY STRENGTH ,THE SAVIOR ,SHEPHERD OF ISRAEL ,MY SHIELD ,SON OF THE LIVING GOD ,BRIGHT…STAR ,MORNING
STAR ,A STRONG TOWER
,MY HIGH TOWER ,THE TRUTH
,MOST UPRIGHT ,THE WAY
4. Confront the lies by pointing to what is most important
2 Corinthians 5:14-21
We are in the ministry of reconciliation.
The most important thing we can
show people is that all people have sin and need to be forgiven
Our goal is not to make things right in this world but to make things right
between people and God.
Are you right with
Have you been hurt
and holding back but need to respond to Him today?
The Truth is that
God loves you, He wants you to come to Him for forgiveness. He wants you to give control of your life to Him because He has
great plans for your life.
Have you been hurt?
give it to God today
Have you hurt others?
ask God to give you the courage to make things right
Matthew 5:23. “Therefore, if you are offering your
gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24leave your gift there in front
of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.